If you are not aware of the indicators, then ascertaining whether your relative is becoming addicted to alcohol or not may be very difficult. When a loved one is drinking a lot more in a short time or when they are visibly drunk, spotting such a problem is easy enough. It will be easier for you to spot the changes in their behaviour because you are close to them. We questioned professionals in alcohol dependency to provide their guidance.
Dr. Sheri Jacobson, psychotherapist and councillor at the Harley therapy mention that the best way to approach someone you are concerned with is to do so with sensitivity and empathy.
Consider how you would like to be approached if an individual looked forward to giving you information about having a problem with alcohol.
According to Dr Jacobson, "It can be humiliating to be told they may be drinking too much and their first response might be to be defensive and deny they have a problem,".
"As our culture doesn't condemn drinking a lot they might say they are not doing something wrong as everybody else is doing it too. Let them know that you are preoccupied about their behaviour, don't attack them".
Speaking with a positive language is essential to this understanding approach.
Making judgemental comments, using tags such as "alcoholic" and harsh criticism should be avoided. Make an attempt to avoid circular conversations (them: no, I am not! You: yes, you are."). Additionally, it's more appropriate to make open questions, such as "I've noticed X, what do you think?" than "don't you think you have an issue?"
Furthermore, picking your time is also important for both of you. This will include ensuring an unemotional feeling of calm and confidence between the two of you. Furthermore, it is essential for you to have a lot of information so you can provide the individual with the correct details and guide where they can get help.
Getting the one you are worried about to this step, looking for help from an independent person, will positively assist them modify their behaviour or their connection with alcohol. Therefore they will understand they are binge drinking because someone else is telling them also. You could very well be surprised to understand that the person concerned will begin to agree with you. They might confirm and say, "yes, I think I am drinking too much." However, they may not say. The most important thing is to get them to develop the desire to defeat their alcohol problem, as only your assistance won't be enough. You will need to have the same conversation with the individual multiple times before they accept that they do have a problem.
We run a confidential Alcohol Self-Assessment Test, where the drinking pattern of the person is examined and counselling on the next actions to take are given. If you also need to know the how alcohol can affect your relationship we can also provide you with this information.